Grief expert David Kessler says what looks like being stuck in grief is often stillness, a natural response to loss's chaos. He argues grieving people need patience and presence, not pressure to move on. Bring coffee. Meet them where they are.
If someone you love seems stuck in their grief, it might not be what you think. They've survived something that's thrown their whole world into chaos. So let's give them a break and be gentle with them. Every single thing they knew is now in this new chaotic world. The idea of how the world works completely changed on them. Think of this. The opposite of stuck is chaos. And when you're in chaos, sometimes you need to go to the other extreme, which is the stuck. To regroup, to slow down, to collect yourself. What we call stuck could be a point of reflection, a place of healing. Rather than wanting our friends and loved ones in grief to be different than where they are, let's meet them there. Let's love them there. Let's bring them coffee in their stuckness. Let's take them a meal in their stuckness. Let's just hang with them there and be patient. Let me know your thoughts and follow me for more information and support.
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