David Kessler explains why grief feels like profound loneliness even surrounded by loved ones. The person you need to talk to most is the one who died, your confidant and ally. At a family gathering, someone in his grief group felt incomplete despite everyone being together, because their loved one was missing.
When you're grieving, you could be surrounded by all the people that love you. Yet all you feel is the one person who isn't there. In a room full of people, they may not understand that people in grief desperately want to talk to one person the most, the person who died. They might have been the one person that really understood you, that got you. They were always on your side. And their absence is loud. This leaves the griever in a profound state of loneliness. One person in my Tender Hearts grief group said they were at a family gathering and their aunt said, "Isn't it great we're all together?" And the griever said, "No, we're not all together. My person's gone."
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