Eli

I have been living with a dismissive avoidant for the last year and a half. His wife left him four years ago, she took their small child and dog halfway across the country. He is active military and has hidden our relationship from everyone. I am a scuba diver. I volunteer with Wildlife and I am a dynamic person. But since falling in love with him, I hate who I have become and constantly second-guess myself. He detach us easily and hasn’t been warm or told me that he loves me and almost a year. He is afraid of conflict and refuses accountability. I stopped asking for validation and have withdrawn within myself. He takes my availability and patience and love for granted. He has gone a lot, but when he is home, he vacillate between wanting to have sex or lay on the couch with me and acting disgusted with me. I need help.